The above phrase is intended to be a compliment but is ultimately the demise of a relationship. I blame the belief that you can accomplish anything through hard work.
A boyfriend works the same way, right? Push him, encourage him and support him, and he’ll finally finish his degree, quit his late-night bartending job and get on your level. He will get there because you are good for him.
Spoiler alert: This isn’t how it goes. You will feel defeated, exhausted and disappointed until it inevitably ends in a giant waste of time. However, it does not have to be a complete waste if you learn, make the change and decide that this time, your partner will be good for you.